Christian Domestic Discipline
Heavenly pain for strange bedfellows
- First Found: Pre-Internet; Mid-2000's (on the internet)
Few subcultures are so divisive that they irritate conservative Catholics and atheists, concerned mothers and feminists, as well as many others.
Bizarre even by internet standards, the Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) subculture celebrates marriages with dominant husbands and submissive wives. Wives are expected to be dutiful and obey their husbands' orders. If they don't comply, the husband is obligated to discipline them. What's interesting about CDD is its favored form of punishment: spanking. Hot, bare bottom spanking. They literally emphasize the importance of making contact with the flesh, not spanking over fabric.
It is hard to discern the motivations of spouses in such relationships. Some may truly believe that wives should be subservient, in which an abusive relationship may seem unavoidable. Others may be seeking religious justification for their fetishes.
It does not seem that clear-cut, however, and there may be a mixture of religious conviction and an awareness of kinky impulses. Christian spanking blogs and websites can also be difficult to decipher. They seem to vary from female-oriented erotica to archaic religious discussions on the duties of spouses, both husband and wife, and these usually overlap (but it's mostly erotica).
Overall, it appears the spousal discipline and controlling/submissive roles are sexual in nature. Many sites openly acknowledge the eroticism of such behaviors. Without the religious themes, this would be easier to describe as BDSM.
- The husband is in charge of the household. It is his responsibility to correct his wife's behavior.
- Aside from spankings, punishment can include time-outs, loss of allowance, and loss of "computer/TV time" (seriously).
- The relationship must be consensual. Both partners must agree to it.
- There can be "nonconsensual consent," which sounds like roleplaying or a loophole for abuse.
- Children are not involved, unless you want to get v&.
- AAAC: "Avoid at all costs" spanking, see punishment spankings
- Bedroom time: a punishment in which the wife must stay in the bedroom for a time specified by the husband
- Bratting: when a women intentionally misbehaves because she wants a spanking (you know why)
- Corner time: a punishment in which the wife must stand in a corner for a time specified by the husband
- Discipline spanking: see punishment spanking
- Head of household or HOH: the husband
- Maintenance spanking: periodic spankings intended to reinforce the relationship roles (remind the wife of her place) and to discourage the need for punishment spankings
- Play spanking: spanking for fun, AKA "Good Girl" spanking
- Punishment spanking: spanking given when the wife is "out of line," the harshest form of spanking
- Warm up spanking: a lighter, shorter spanking to precede a heavier spanking, used to lessen bruising
CDD/DD and eroticism
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The origins of CDD are ostensibly the bible and the romantic idea of "old-fashioned" marriages, but the most important source is probably sex. Like many odd subcultures, the internet has benefited CDD members by providing them with information, advice, encouragement, and a wide variety of sex toys.
The biblical justifications are up for debate. Many Christian commentators seem more upset about using the bible to justify inequality between spouses than using it to spice up one's love life. Likewise, most feminists are disgusted.
Quite a few CDD and DD blogs have sprouted up, as well as a few sites that serve as general references. One of the main reference sites, ChristianDomesticDiscipline.com, "CDD," started in 2006, doesn't seem to take itself too seriously. Look at their disclaimer:
- "This website, as well as any information presented herein, is intended for purposes of education or entertainment only. Views or opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of ownership or management."
Of course, this may be an attempt to distance themselves from deranged persons that may take things a bit too far. Another site, christiandd.com, "Christian Domestic Discipline," is operated by wives in CDD relationships, including one who claims to have written erotic spanking stories for years.
Active. There is an overlap between more religious-oriented and less religious DD blogs, and even general spanking enthusiasts' blogs. It is well within The Twilight Zone of the internet.
- CDD fiction is primarily written by women. Like this.
The "I Love You" spoon, with hearts, a smiley, and Chinese characters (?).